I'm a twenty-six year old 
Vickie: He needs a place to stay ’til he can find a new job and get his own place.
Lelaina: Vickie, that’s the American dream of the 90’s, that could take years!
When I was in middle school, I wanted my life to be Reality Bites. I wanted to date a Troy Dyer – who was obviously written by a woman because no guy is that perfect mix of asshole, intelligence, inner sweetness, and poor hygiene.
This movie pretty much screwed up my poor little pre-adolescent mind. I wanted to grow up and say profound things while I smoked cigarettes and ignored my hair’s grease content. Unfortunately I’m about as cool as Dan Rather. (I’ve got the disillusioned, unemployed thing down, though.)
Now at 24, I’m still attracted to jerks and Troy Dyer types, but I’ve realized that if my boyfriend included that many 9th grade vocabulary words into every sentence, I’d have to smack him upside the head with his copy of Candide.
Don’t rush into getting boyfriend,the right one will come along and when he does,you will know it in your heart.
I know exactly what you mean. I think Troy Dyer is my archetype male. I even mistook my husband’s shyness for aloofness when I first met him which initially made me lust after him… then I realized he was shy & fell in love with him anyway. Thank God he’s not as asshole!!! Though Troy was just a misunderstood asshole. okay I still love him. I will always love Troy.
PS Though I love being married and everything— Tell me that you are enjoying being single because when you get married you won’t get to lust after any guys you want and sleep with any guy you want. I firmly believe that there are probably many men out there that are “the ones”… many men that you could fall for if you got to know them well enough and allowed yourself to– but when you commit, you commit. You say “okay– I’m going with you.” I love Donnie with all my heart and I’m not trying to say that he is replaceable… I’m just being very realistic. There are many men I could have fallen in love with… every now and then I meet a guy who is definitely very interesting– but I made my choice and so I do not entertain the thought. And that is why you should enjoy being single right now because commitment is hard– ups and downs. That tingly sensation of first meeting a guy and liking him and wondering “what if” is such a rush and so incredible— I gave that up. You can have that several more times before you commit to someone. Live it up.
@ verymandy
I’m not sure if you read this entry or not. My whole singledom/spinster/never going to marry thing is completely a joke on myself. I am a big fan of self-deprivation, and my seemingly endless relationship-less status has turned from the bane of my existence to a realization that being single doesn’t mean flawed – it’s a period (or has been for me) of self-realization.
And I’m completely realistic about relationships. I realize there are fights and finances and imperfections; I may not have ever been married, but I have dated, and while that’s not the same thing, I’ve long known that there is no perfect relationship.
As far as crushes go, they seem wonderful in theory, but I’ve found that they’re actually kind of a pain in the ass. The period of “what if” is pretty damn annoying, or is in my experience. Plus I’ve never been one to simply date or sleep around, so losing out on that doesn’t seem like much of a sacrifice.
Anyway. Apparently I come off WAY crazier than I am.